On REM dreams

If you can't teach your heart to love and can't help it to forget, how then can you stop it from beating the same name in every waking moment and in many dreamrich nights? Suffering is much worse when you're dreaming -- where you're confronted by your Self without distractions; where you can't hide or deny or apologize. If you've had dreams where you're crying, you can give 'helpless' a new meaning. And even when the dreams are indeed sweet, you still wake up crying because you can't love as freely as you love in your dreams. Then you start the day with such thoughts. It seems you can't tell your self who NOT to love just as much as love can't touch you when you blatantly reject it. But how do you set yourself free without getting hurt?